15 Ways to Practice Self-Care as a New Mom

It's no secret being a mom is hard. Like, THEE toughest job out there. In between the feedings, diaper changes + 'shushes' not to mention bill-paying, cooking and finding time for your partner, it's not easy to remember to look out for #1 (that's you). And so I've compiled a little list of relatively simple yet totally satisfying ways to practice self-care as a new mom.

01 : Take a bath (bubbles + bath bombs recommended). These are my favorite from LUSH
02 : Take a nap (when you can)
03 : Do a load of your OWN laundry
04 : Light a candle or diffuse some essential oils. Check out Magickal Babe Brigade for some sweet deals on some
05 : Have someone watch baby for an hour to go get a mani/pedicure
06 : Have your own happy hour after baby goes to bed and drink some wine. This is my go-to red right now
07 : Catch up on your favorite TV shows while you breast (or bottle) feed
08 : Pick up a bouquet of pretty flowers during your next grocery run
09 : Eat some ice cream
10 : Write. In a journal, in your Notes app, on a scrap of paper. Just write. These journals are pretty cute
11 : Stretch for five minutes (or longer if you can)
12 : Meditate. The 10% Happier app is great for guided meditation
13 : Have a date night, even if it's at 11pm lying in bed holding hands + talking about anything other than the perfect human you've created, sleeping in the next room
14 : Listen to a Spotify playlist. Follow @spiritandhaven's Insta-stories for some great song recommendations
15 : Breathe. Smile. You're doing an amazing job.

Walker / Two Months


Welp, I’m finally getting around to posting Walker’s 2 month blog at halfway to his third—this ‘4th trimester’ as they call it, is no joke...but that’s for a different post. 

These past few weeks have been quite challenging. I developed mastitis but luckily caught it super early and was able to get antibiotics right away. Still though, that shit is NO JOKE. Sucked so bad. Then we noticed he started getting pretty bad reflux and projectile vomiting everywhere. I think what was happening is that I was overfeeding him so once I started cutting him off as soon as he slowed down or pulled off at the breast and burping him right away. it’s been better. Also, gripe water has helped a ton. The only downside is it’s so hard to feed him the doseage with the dropper. He HATES it and ends up crying/choking/spitting it everywhere. Despite all that my baby has managed to weigh FOURTEEN POUNDS. We have his two month check up (and shots) next week and I’m curious to see what his confirmed weight and length is—he’s already wearing 6-9mo clothes and is too tall for most of his footy pajamas. What a little monster I have.

Sleeping continues to be a work in progress. Re-reading my last post I wrote about how he’d go to bed at midnight and I don’t know what I was thinking (blame it on being a clueless FTM) because that is WAY too late to keep a baby up. We’ve been reading The Happy Sleeper and implementing the methods for his age group and while he’s still not sleeping through the night (lofty ambition for a newborn) he has gotten on a pretty good nap routine of going down for 45 mins to an hour, after every 90 mins of awake time. I wouldn’t exactly call it a schedule because it’s hard to stick to when we’re not at home (Thanksgiving was a nightmare) but on days we don’t leave the house it works great haha. Once he outgrows his Rock n’ Play which won’t be long now, we’ll move him to his crib and see how that goes.

This month hasn’t been all bad. It’s been really fun watching his development skills + milestones. He turns his head and tracks everything with his eyes now, recognizes mom & dad’s faces and smiles all big at us, has his hands in his mouth 24/7 and is constantly cooing/talking and loves having a *conversation* with you when you repeat his sounds. It’s pretty dang cute. 

Christmas is next month and while the holidays have proven to be tough running around with a newborn, I’m so excited for his first Christmas. We picked out our tree yesterday and he’s very mesmerized by the bright lights—hooray new visual entertainment source! My mom got him the cutest PJ’s for Christmas morning so I plan on getting some matching ones. Get excited for pics of that Kodak moment, ha.

Baby Boom!

A lot of people don't believe me when I tell them Walker is just one of TEN babies born into my family this year. It's a little crazy, I know, but it's the god-honest truth--between my sister and I plus eight of our cousins, there are ten brand new babies--4 boys and 6 girls--and a cumulative 200 fingers + toes to love.

We decided it was necessary to get us all together for a group photo of all our little ones to document this amazing feat. While most of us live locally, a couple families traveled from their homes in L.A. to take the photo this past weekend. 

(from left to right) Top row: Camila, Walker, Mila Isabella, Ryan, Luca, Eliana / Bottom row: Melody, Benjamin, Leighlah, Mila Celine

(from left to right) Top row: Camila, Walker, Mila Isabella, Ryan, Luca, Eliana / Bottom row: Melody, Benjamin, Leighlah, Mila Celine

There they are! In all their naked glory. Looking that the picture, I get why people don't believe me. It's almost impossible to believe so many kiddos belong to one family! What can I say--we are Mexican hahaha.

To say that morning was chaos is an understatement. At any given point there was a baby crying or eating or pooping or sleeping. Thank goodness for my gracious host of a cousin who provided coffee and bagels for all of us bleary-eyed mamas! I managed to capture some behind-the-scenes moments including this hilarious video:


I leave you with this photo of my son, a ray of sunshine, with all of his boy cousins. LOL


Walker / One Month


And just like that, my baby is one month old. HOW?! It really is true what they say, the newborn stage (and probably every other one too, let's be real) goes by so fast. He already looks so much like a big boy to me. 90% of the time when he's sleeping I'm looking at pictures and videos of him on my phone and it's insane to me how different just a few weeks makes!

He weighed almost 9lbs already at his 2-week appointment and as I'm writing this at 5 weeks, I'm sure he's already past the 10lb mark--this chunk loves to eat and I'm so glad I've been able to exclusively breastfeed since day one with relatively zero problems, so far (knock on wood). Like I mentioned in my previous post, those Silverette cups made a huge difference in my breastfeeding journey. One thing I do want to work on being better at is pumping so that I can save up "an arsenal" of milk, as Joel likes to call it, for times we want to have a date night or Joel takes him on an extended outing so I can work for a couple of hours. It's hard not to feel like I'm just a cow over here! But I am grateful that I'm able to continue to nourish my baby with just my body. It's pretty amazing.

He sleeps fairly well, but gone are the days where he slept literally all day in those first two weeks. He usually goes down for a nap around 1 or 2pm and then down for the night around midnight and wakes up every 3-4 hours to eat before being all bright-eyed and bushy-tailed around 9am. It's easily my favorite part of our day because he's SO happy and alert. I know babies aren't supposed to smile for *real* at this stage but my kid must be advanced in that department because he's been smirking and smiling for a couple of weeks now and it completely melts my heart! The biggest grins are after an impressive fart or poop--which sound (and smell) intense.

Overall, this first month has been the greatest, hardest transition of my life but I wouldn't trade it for anything. We are so in love with our little bambino and I can't wait to see what the next month has in store for us!

Friday Favorites


O N E / As a new mom, I needed to read this and maybe you do too.  

T W O / Carter's is having a major sale this week! I snagged this and this for my little guy. Both are under $10!

T H R E E / I'm a total sucker for sad love songs/poetry. Tim's take on relationship *firsts* is devastatingly beautiful.

F O U R / I've been to New York once, a long time ago but Vanessa's post on all the foodie places she visited there is totally making me want to go back! *drools*

F I V E / I can't believe Halloween is already around the corner! I'm trying to come up with a simple, cute + comfortable costume for Walker. Pinterest has some pretty cute ideas like this hilarious ninja turtle and this adorable owl for a little girl.